You are tired of constantly coming up against the belief that, because of your disability or chronic illness, you cannot possibly have sexual needs and desires. You are single, wondering whether regular sexual pleasure is possible, or you are a couple keen to find out whether you can achieve sexual intercourse. You avoid opening up conversations about your sexual needs to minimise the risk of causing offence or being judged. You experience sexual desire, but masturbation and relief are not always easily achieved. You feel uncomfortable when your sexual response is triggered during everyday personal care. You try to manage your mobility, dexterity, fatigue but your enjoyment is often compromised.
The lack of opportunity for sexual expression and enjoyment causes you to feel frustrated, alone and, at times, desperate. You know that when you experience orgasms and ejaculations, your physical pain is alleviated so you need less medication. But your sexual frustration can cause you to be angry and irritable. You perceive everyone else is having a great time sexually; you are ready to move beyond the constraints of your situation to explore what is possible. You want to be able to talk about your sexual needs and to be acknowledged as a sexual being.
I have been working with individuals and couples with physical disability and chronic illness since 2008, providing support and advocacy for sexual expression and enjoyment. My initial focus is to provide a confidential space for you to talk about your sexual needs so that we can creatively look for ways to facilitate your sexual pleasure. I am committed to advising people who are ready and willing to stand up for their right to sexual expression and enjoyment.
“I wanted to let you know that I've been having wonderful, liberated, creative, and thoroughly enjoyable sexual experiences this summer - our two sessions were definitely a big help at the end of this stage of the process.”
“We needed a third party to hear us, and to help us hear each other. You allowed us to create some space between us and keep our communications more civilised. The sessions that we had were really helpful and so far, it's working well!”
“My aims were to avoid premature ejaculation and get the confidence to start a new sexual relationship. The therapy fulfilled both objectives. I found Sue to be very straightforward, easy to talk to, and sympathetic and my quality of life has improved.”
“I am a quadriplegic, paralysed from the shoulders down. It is no exaggeration to say that she has changed my life. Sue has opened up a whole world of sensual and sexual liberation for me.”
“Sue is calm, personable, challenging, supportive and empathic. She quickly understood my issues and suggested ways to tackle them effectively. I would highly recommend her. After a couple of sessions, I felt confident to ask someone on a date and am now in a happy relationship.”
“I originally got in touch with Sue to work on my dysfunctional erections. Sue taught me practical techniques and helped unravel my sexual history. She had a positive outlook and gave useful insights. It’s been life changing.”