You are fulfilled and successful in many aspects of your life but, increasingly, your lack of sexual confidence feels like an obstacle to your happiness. Perhaps your focus has been your career and you’ve arrived in adulthood with limited or no sexual experience, maybe it’s been a very long time since you engaged in partnered sex or an earlier sexual encounter left you feeling inept and inferior?
You shy away from initiating physical intimacy, you withdraw when someone flirts with you because you are terrified that your lack of sexual experience will be found out, that you will be humiliated and shamed. The idea of dating fills you with dread. You feel excluded from the chance of having a romantic relationship because you don’t know how to navigate the landscape of sex with a partner. It is difficult to talk openly and honestly about your sexual concerns and this feeds your ideas that ‘everyone is having more sex than me’, ‘they are better at sex than me’ and ‘other people enjoy sex more than me’. These beliefs contribute to you feeling alone and isolated and your embarrassment prevents you from getting the very thing that you need -an enjoyable sexual experience.
So far you have avoided addressing this, but you can no longer ignore how your feelings of sexual inadequacy impact your overall wellbeing and life. You are weary of carrying this shameful secret and bored of witnessing other people in relationships. You want to be free of what feels like a debilitating situation and yearn for the delight of sharing physical pleasure with another, the warmth of true intimacy and the joy of sharing a sexual experience with someone else. Or perhaps you are in a sexless relationship looking for advice about how to re-establish sexual connection with your partner.
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“Sue is calm, personable, challenging, supportive and empathic. She quickly understood my issues and suggested ways to tackle them effectively. I would highly recommend her. After a couple of sessions, I felt confident to ask someone on a date and am now in a happy relationship.”
“I originally got in touch with Sue to work on my dysfunctional erections. Sue taught me practical techniques and helped unravel my sexual history. She had a positive outlook and gave useful insights. It’s been life changing.”