Sessions for Individuals

You are fulfilled and successful in many aspects of your life but, increasingly, your lack of sexual confidence feels like an obstacle to your happiness. Perhaps your focus has been your career and you’ve arrived in adulthood with limited or no sexual experience, maybe it’s been a very long time since you engaged in partnered sex or an earlier sexual encounter left you feeling inept and inferior?  

You shy away from initiating physical intimacy, you withdraw when someone flirts with you because you are terrified that your lack of sexual experience will be found out, that you will be humiliated and shamed.  The idea of dating fills you with dread.  You feel excluded from the chance of having a romantic relationship because you don’t know how to navigate the landscape of sex with a partner.  It is difficult to talk openly and honestly about your sexual concerns and this feeds your ideas that ‘everyone is having more sex than me’, ‘they are better at sex than me’ and ‘other people enjoy sex more than me’.  These beliefs contribute to you feeling alone and isolated and your embarrassment prevents you from getting the very thing that you need -an enjoyable sexual experience.

So far you have avoided addressing this, but you can no longer ignore how your feelings of sexual inadequacy impact your overall wellbeing and life.  You are weary of carrying this shameful secret and bored of witnessing other people in relationships.  You want to be free of what feels like a debilitating situation and yearn for the delight of sharing physical pleasure with another, the warmth of true intimacy and the joy of sharing a sexual experience with someone else.  Or perhaps you are in a sexless relationship looking for advice about how to re-establish sexual connection with your partner.  

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My Sexual Confidence programme is designed for people who want to feel more assured, capable and ready to explore sexual intimacy.  It is a series of structured sessions that include education, therapeutic support and skills practice, providing a foundation for understanding and self-knowledge to support you becoming an expert lover. The programme equips you to navigate the complexity and nuance of sexual interaction and enables you to enjoy being both the initiator and recipient of sexual pleasure.   

The structure of the programme is finely tailored to meet your specific curiosities, questions and needs. It includes a combination of online sessions, face-to-face meetings and educational modules. In my experience, this approach is most successful when you are ready for change, willing to admit what you don’t know, able to self-reflect, committed to attending the sessions and prepared to work with practices between our meetings.  

The programme normally runs for up to six months with sessions fortnightly or every three weeks and with periodic reviews.  I promise to encourage, challenge you and I will do my very best to help you find your sexual confidence and unique sexual expression.

This programme will give you:

  • An opportunity to practice having conversations about sexual matters, to build a vocabulary that you feel comfortable to use in intimate situations
  • Practices for sexual self-discovery so that you can track the subtlety of physical sensation giving you more knowledge of yourself, your body and your sexual pleasure
  • Identification of any false or limiting ideas/beliefs/attitudes/behaviours and unrealistic expectations that you have picked up so that you can get clearer about what actually happens when adults engage in consensual sex
  • How to establish a basis of emotional intimacy with potential partners, manage the transition from ‘talking’ to ‘touching’ and deal with the potential awkwardness of getting naked
  • An appreciation of why you need to be able to clearly ask for what you want in your pleasure, learn ways to give and ask for feedback during sexual intimacy
  • Knowledge about the potential for pleasure in the whole body and genital anatomy relating to sexual arousal for the opposite sex
  • Techniques that build and expand pleasure rather than being solely focused on lubrication, orgasm, ejaculation and intercourse
  • Understanding of the various routes and practices to create sexual pleasure for yourself and a partner.    

Alternatively, you may have a concern about a particular aspect of your sexual function, maybe a change in your body’s response is causing concern or making you anxious.  You are keen to learn what may help your situation so that you can relax and enjoy your sexual pleasure.  I offer focus sessions where we work with specific sexual concerns including low desire, difficulty with arousal, erectile concerns, struggles with orgasm and ejaculatory management.  In the focus sessions,I will offer suggestions and practices for you to work with that can have a positive impact.  

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“We have never had to think about language to describe our pleasure or to guide each other but we are now experiencing pleasure like never before.”  
couple (2020)
“Sue is an engaging presenter and inspirational teacher.  She brings the training material to life by adding her professional experiences and relating key teaching points to real-life scenarios.”
“Sincere thanks for your guidance, for pushing us, almost to the edge on occasion and for your part in helping us find the freedom and the depth in our relationship. We now feel fulfilled and able to express our fears and joys in equal measure.”
couple (2020)
“You were absolutely amazing.  What you said really helped me in my sessions with clients and helped me see things from a different point of view. It was really invaluable and helped me so much with my training.  I would recommend you to anyone.”  
Supervisee (2021)

“I wanted to let you know that I've been having wonderful, liberated, creative, and thoroughly enjoyable sexual experiences this summer - our two sessions were definitely a big help at the end of this stage of the process.”

Female (2019)

“We needed a third party to hear us, and to help us hear each other.  You allowed us to create some space between us and keep our communications more civilised. The sessions that we had were really helpful and so far, it's working well!” 

Couple (2021)

“My aims were to avoid premature ejaculation and get the confidence to start a new sexual relationship. The therapy fulfilled both objectives.  I found Sue to be very straightforward, easy to talk to, and sympathetic and my quality of life has improved.” 

Male (2019)

“I am a quadriplegic, paralysed from the shoulders down. It is no exaggeration to say that she has changed my life. Sue has opened up a whole world of sensual and sexual liberation for me.”

Male (2012)

“Sue is calm, personable, challenging, supportive and empathic. She quickly understood my issues and suggested ways to tackle them effectively.  I would highly recommend her.  After a couple of sessions, I felt confident to ask someone on a date and am now in a happy relationship.”

Male (2019)

“I originally got in touch with Sue to work on my dysfunctional erections.  Sue taught me practical techniques and helped unravel my sexual history. She had a positive outlook and gave useful insights. It’s been life changing.”

Male (2020)