My commitment to my work comes from my belief that emotional connection and sexual pleasure are fundamental to our health and happiness. It is natural to desire a fulfilling sex life, a relationship where we feel seen and heard and perfectly reasonable to want both.
My experience shows me how important it is that we can connect to our emotional and sexual needs so that we can articulate them. The moments when we take responsibility for our own pleasure and want to learn about our partner’s pleasure - this is what creates a positive experience. We have to be willing to take the risk to request what we desire, be prepared to ask for adjustments and say no when something isn’t working for us. Equally soliciting, listening to and respecting the needs of our partner.
I feel passionate about providing professional education and support around sex and relationships whether it is single conversation or an extended programme of sessions. It may be advice about how to masturbate, a technique to talk about difficult feelings or ideas to help rekindle sexual desire.
My work combines my qualifications as a counsellor, therapist and sex therapist with twenty years’ experience of working in this field and my study of eastern traditions of sacred sexuality. In 2001, I joined Shakti Tantra, a leading UK tantra school, and co-ran tantra training programmes for several years. The teachings of tantra continue to inform my work.
I am a member of the Association of Somatic and Integrative Sexologists and adhere to their code of ethics to ensure that my work is both professional and ethical. I have regular supervision and participate in continuing professional development to keep my knowledge up to date. In 2020 I gained an Advanced Diploma in Couples Therapy (distinction) from the NAOS Institute.
“I wanted to let you know that I've been having wonderful, liberated, creative, and thoroughly enjoyable sexual experiences this summer - our two sessions were definitely a big help at the end of this stage of the process.”
“We needed a third party to hear us, and to help us hear each other. You allowed us to create some space between us and keep our communications more civilised. The sessions that we had were really helpful and so far, it's working well!”
“My aims were to avoid premature ejaculation and get the confidence to start a new sexual relationship. The therapy fulfilled both objectives. I found Sue to be very straightforward, easy to talk to, and sympathetic and my quality of life has improved.”
“I am a quadriplegic, paralysed from the shoulders down. It is no exaggeration to say that she has changed my life. Sue has opened up a whole world of sensual and sexual liberation for me.”
“Sue is calm, personable, challenging, supportive and empathic. She quickly understood my issues and suggested ways to tackle them effectively. I would highly recommend her. After a couple of sessions, I felt confident to ask someone on a date and am now in a happy relationship.”
“I originally got in touch with Sue to work on my dysfunctional erections. Sue taught me practical techniques and helped unravel my sexual history. She had a positive outlook and gave useful insights. It’s been life changing.”