You are looking for help because your relationship or sex life has hit the rocks. It may be a relationship issue such as disappointment, resentment, hurt or anger that is seeping into the bedroom causing sex to be difficult or a sexual problem is creating friction between you. Blame and judgement have become your norm; stealing your joy. Your differences regularly trigger arguments and your situation feels like an insurmountable problem.
Some of the factors that can impact your sex life and relationship include degradation in sexual response (concern regarding arousal and orgasm), painful sex, betrayal, boredom, illness and medication and the aging process. Or it can be fertility issues, termination or loss of pregnancy, childlessness, traumatic childbirth and the transition to becoming parents that have taken their toll.
Perhaps you feel that your sex life is in the doldrums, it has become routine, less satisfying. You have a sense of what is not working for you but you’re not sure how to ask for what you want or maybe you don’t even know what you want. It may be the difference in your levels of sexual desire or the fact that you have opposite sexual interests that has become a tension between you. Maybe there has been a gradual decline in your pleasure, and you can’t remember the last time you had sex. Or your sex life is ‘fine’ but you wonder how you could enhance the experience or you have curiosities about different sexual practices or relationship models.
When your sex life feels difficult, it is easier to avoid initiating sex rather than risk another disappointment or failure. Once you are in the pattern of avoidance, you cannot see how to rekindle desire and find sexual enjoyment again. When your relationship becomes a struggle, it can feel a lonely and miserable place.
“I wanted to let you know that I've been having wonderful, liberated, creative, and thoroughly enjoyable sexual experiences this summer - our two sessions were definitely a big help at the end of this stage of the process.”
“We needed a third party to hear us, and to help us hear each other. You allowed us to create some space between us and keep our communications more civilised. The sessions that we had were really helpful and so far, it's working well!”
“My aims were to avoid premature ejaculation and get the confidence to start a new sexual relationship. The therapy fulfilled both objectives. I found Sue to be very straightforward, easy to talk to, and sympathetic and my quality of life has improved.”
“I am a quadriplegic, paralysed from the shoulders down. It is no exaggeration to say that she has changed my life. Sue has opened up a whole world of sensual and sexual liberation for me.”
“Sue is calm, personable, challenging, supportive and empathic. She quickly understood my issues and suggested ways to tackle them effectively. I would highly recommend her. After a couple of sessions, I felt confident to ask someone on a date and am now in a happy relationship.”
“I originally got in touch with Sue to work on my dysfunctional erections. Sue taught me practical techniques and helped unravel my sexual history. She had a positive outlook and gave useful insights. It’s been life changing.”