You are fulfilled and successful in many aspects of your life but, increasingly, your lack of sexual confidence feels like an obstacle to your happiness. Perhaps your focus has been your career and you’ve arrived in adulthood with limited or no sexual experience, maybe it’s been a very long time since you engaged in partnered sex or an earlier sexual encounter left you feeling inept and inferior?
You shy away from initiating physical intimacy, you withdraw when someone flirts with you because you are terrified that your lack of sexual experience will be found out, that you will be humiliated and shamed. The idea of dating fills you with dread. You feel excluded from the chance of having a romantic relationship because you don’t know how to navigate the landscape of sex with a partner. It is difficult to talk openly and honestly about your sexual concerns and this feeds your ideas that ‘everyone is having more sex than me’, ‘they are better at sex than me’ and ‘other people enjoy sex more than me’. These beliefs contribute to you feeling alone and isolated and your embarrassment prevents you from getting the very thing that you need -an enjoyable sexual experience.
So far you have avoided addressing this, but you can no longer ignore how your feelings of sexual inadequacy impact your overall wellbeing and life. You are weary of carrying this shameful secret and bored of witnessing other people in relationships. You want to be free of what feels like a debilitating situation and yearn for the delight of sharing physical pleasure with another, the warmth of true intimacy and the joy of sharing a sexual experience with someone else. Or perhaps you are in a sexless relationship looking for advice about how to re-establish sexual connection with your partner.
My Sexual Confidence programme is designed for people who want to feel more assured, capable and ready to explore sexual intimacy. It is a series of structured sessions that include education, therapeutic support and skills practice, providing a foundation for understanding and self-knowledge to support you becoming an expert lover. The programme equips you to navigate the complexity and nuance of sexual interaction and enables you to enjoy being both the initiator and recipient of sexual pleasure.
The structure of the programme is finely tailored to meet your specific curiosities, questions and needs. It includes a combination of online sessions, face-to-face meetings and educational modules. In my experience, this approach is most successful when you are ready for change, willing to admit what you don’t know, able to self-reflect, committed to attending the sessions and prepared to work with practices between our meetings.
The programme normally runs for up to six months with sessions fortnightly or every three weeks and with periodic reviews. I promise to encourage, challenge you and I will do my very best to help you find your sexual confidence and unique sexual expression.
Alternatively, you may have a concern about a particular aspect of your sexual function, maybe a change in your body’s response is causing concern or making you anxious. You are keen to learn what may help your situation so that you can relax and enjoy your sexual pleasure. I offer focus sessions where we work with specific sexual concerns including low desire, difficulty with arousal, erectile concerns, struggles with orgasm and ejaculatory management. In the focus sessions,I will offer suggestions and practices for you to work with that can have a positive impact.
